Thursday, May 5, 2011

If motherhood was easy Men could do it !

ME,my mum,my mums mum and my mums mums mum.
Some they say are hugging mothers and some are scolding mothers.Some read stories and bake cookies and some go to soccer and some don't. I guess i am more a hugging mother also a sooky mother and yes i have been a yelling screaming shrew at times mostly id say warranted.I'm definitely a nagging mother,I'm a bribing kind of mother and a silly kind of mother.i have used fairies against my children yes i admit that-the fairies would watch son number two on the school bus and tell me how he behaved, If he came in asking what did the fairies say biting his nails and looking worried well the fairies had told me he mucked up on the bus.If he came in smiling and proud of course the fairies had told how proud they were he was so good.The same dobbing fairies though also left tiny fairy gifts and fairy letters.Santa's beard would get caught in our fireplace screen and once a letter even sailed down the chimney in full view of Alex.The bunny and the tooth fairy always came to our house.But however hard i would try i was not an organized mummy not with four sons and a husband never home , I have two sons with aspergers and one with adhd and one whose IQ was in the genius level.Oh yeah and the one with adhd was epileptic.they were always getting stitches and lumps and bumps and bruises well mainly Timothy was but the others had a share,So come to think of it maybe i had a reason for being disorganized;I was always wrapping presents Xmas eve and racing around cleaning the house before visitors and ending up in tears in my exhaustion at trying to be perfect. ( i have a feeling it was right about then i was that yelling shrewing mother) I didn't always get them to brush there teeth and sometimes they didn't even get their pyjamas on it was just a miracle to read them a story and get them all asleep at once. But i loved them dearly and with all my heart.So if you could say nothing else i kept them all alive albeit slightly damaged and i was a loving mother.I had a loving mother myself who was apt to be always a bit weird a little different but always loving. Although she did bang a mean hairbrush on the fridge when she got angry. She was  a dobber on us to my dad,Sometimes she would say she was going to tell dad and make us sweat all afternoon and then gave us a reprieve.An if it came to a smack from dad it was she who would sneak in with a chocolate after.

3 of my 4 sons Joel ,Matthew and Timothy (and thats Trouble with a capital T)

And although she sometimes made us eat disgusting stuff like the occasional brussel sprout or worse steak and kidney stew she did make a yummy apple pie and custard, We also had fairies in our garden and sometimes in our house.What i think i am saying is that motherhood is not easy its  not meant to be after all if it was then men could do it hehe .And raising my four boys was soooo NOT easy. But would i swap them -NO never not even for the daughter i wished upon many a star for while pregnant.Would i change them well only a tad  you see Im proud of all of them.  Maybe id make them remember to ring me more often,to judge me less and love me sometimes remember the fairies and the laughter  and all the stories ever after.For my mum who this year for the first mothers day since i was born i will not see . Just remember you are loved and when you think that all you did is forgotten know this that i shall forever remember the times both good and bad happy and sad,that you my mum were there . you have often dragged me from the depths ,of my washing when the kids were small and depression when i thought i had lost it all. I Love you to the moon and back.Happy Mothers day to mothers everywhere but especially to my mum..(caterpillar on a leaf mum)


Anonymous said...

How Sweet & How True.....
Happy Mother's Day!!
Have a Wonderful Weekend!

Junk-it Junction... said...

Aww, ditto Jules!

Linda said...

Thank you for taking the time to write a comment on my blog and therefore opening the door for me to your own blog. I shall visit often.

I love your Mother's Day blog and can relate so much to the things you say about Motherhood.
A bitter/sweet experience but the sweet far outweighs the bitter.

Wishing you a Happy Mother's day and some extra phone calls.

Love and hugs,
(The Musings from My Heart)

Lorelle said...

A most beautiful post Jullie. I couldn't stop the tears (stupid me). I can't find the words to tell you how much I enjoyed reading it all.

Southern Lady's Vintage said...

Motherhood is wonderful but no easy job, that is for sure!! Loved reading your story! Happy Mother's Day Jules!!

Candy C said...

Great post and great pictures! Thanks for sharing and Happy Mothers Day! <3 Candy

whymsicalmusings said...

I so loved this post thank you for sharing:)
Have a blissful Mother's Day!

Lisa H essabi said...

Jullie, you touch my heart with your words and images. There is somethign universal about being a mom, and I think you have so much heart and soul! I hope your mother's day was sweet!!
Love you, sweetie! :o)

Mom of 2 Roses said...

I hope you had a happy Mother's Day Jules! I love reading your stories because there is so much honesty in them. I've missed you!!